My divorce felt like a death.
A death of the life I thought I would live. A death of the man I thought
I would always love. And a death of the version of myself I thought I would always be.
Except I was still very much alive. Life was still moving forward. I still had three very young kids that were relying on me for everything. I couldn’t crawl under a rock and simply cry into the abyss (even though that's exactly what I wanted to do).
So I did what pretty much all divorced single moms do - I started surviving my life. Keeping my head afloat one day at a time. I managed, I survived. I kept the kids fed and the house somewhat put together. But I was engulfed in stress, anxiety, overwhelm and doubt.
I was surviving my life.
I wasn’t fully alive. In a sense, I really had experienced a death.
A death of myself.
So many divorced women that I work with know this feeling.
Surviving their lives after divorce. It’s an exhausting
and powerless way to live. While at the same time feeling
like the only option available to us.
During those difficult early months of being a single mom, I quickly learned that I couldn't keep doing life this way. Deep down I held onto a belief that I shouldn't have to sacrifice myself and my own wellbeing + happiness simply because I was divorced.
I knew something needed to change.
I realized that just because my life no longer looked the way I thought it would (or should) didn’t mean that I had to struggle indefinitely. I could create something different for myself and for my kids.
So I got to work doing my own healing. I worked through the grief, pain, and anger I was holding onto since my marriage had fallen apart. I started to uncover patterns and beliefs I was still clinging to about myself and my life that were keeping me stuck and weren’t helping me live the life I actually wanted to live.
I started to heal and rebuild my life along the way.
I took a humanitarian trip to Peru. Went zip-lining on New Year's Eve. Ran my first half marathon. Packed up everything I owned & moved my kids & me across the country to North Carolina. Traveled to Italy & ate way too much pizza. Road tipped to Legoland. Learned how to balance my responsibilities + my emotions as a single mom. Figured out how to juggle my time and provide for my family. Learned how to trust me to handle the challenges and stressors of life as a single parent. Healed my heart & learned to love myself & my life along the way.
It took work and intention but I learned how to rebuild trust in myself and my ability to rebuild the life I wanted to live. A new life, a beautiful life that I am actively designing every single day.
Truly feeling confident in yourself and in your life comes when you are able to fully trust yourself. Throughout the work I’ve done on myself and with my clients over the past few years I have created this foundation in my own life. And this is the transformation I teach my clients how to create for themselves in my one-of-a-kind
Confidently Divorced coaching program.
Self-trust is the bedrock of healing from divorce.
Confidence is the emotion that allows you to create the
the life you want to live.